{"id":36919,"date":"2020-08-26T12:48:23","date_gmt":"2020-08-26T19:48:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kk.org\/cooltools\/?p=36919"},"modified":"2020-08-26T12:48:23","modified_gmt":"2020-08-26T19:48:23","slug":"book-freak-48","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kk.org\/cooltools\/book-freak-48\/","title":{"rendered":"Book Freak #48: Develop a Mindset for Succeeding"},"content":{"rendered":"

Book Freak is a weekly newsletter with short pieces of advice from books. Subscribe here<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

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Carol S. Dweck is the Lewis and Virginia Eaton Professor of Psychology at Stanford University, has been elected to the American Academy of Arts and Sciences and the National Academy of Sciences, and has won nine lifetime achievement awards for her research.\u00a0Here is advice from her book,\u00a0Mindset: The New Psychology of Success<\/strong><\/a>.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Teach your kids and yourself to love challenges<\/strong>
\n\u201cParents think they can hand children permanent confidence\u2014like a gift\u2014by praising their brains and talent. It doesn\u2019t work, and in fact has the opposite effect. It makes children doubt themselves as soon as anything is hard or anything goes wrong. If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, and keep on learning. That way, their children don\u2019t have to be slaves of praise. They will have a lifelong way to build and repair their own confidence.\u201d<\/p>\n

Focus on growth and outcomes will follow<\/strong>
\n\u201cIn the fixed mindset, everything is about the outcome. If you fail\u2014or if you\u2019re not the best\u2014it\u2019s all been wasted. The growth mindset allows people to value what they\u2019re doing regardless of the outcome. They\u2019re tackling problems, charting new courses, working on important issues. Maybe they haven\u2019t found the cure for cancer, but the search was deeply meaningful.\u201d<\/p>\n

Avoid blaming others<\/strong>
\n\u201cJohn Wooden, the legendary basketball coach, says you aren\u2019t a failure until you start to blame. What he means is that you can still be in the process of learning from your mistakes until you deny them.\u201d<\/p>\n

Reframe the guilt of screwups as opportunities to learn<\/strong>
\n\u201cIs there something in your past that you think measured you? A test score? A dishonest or callous action? Being fired from a job? Being rejected? Focus on that thing. Feel all the emotions that go with it. Now put it in a growth-mindset perspective. Look honestly at your role in it, but understand that it doesn\u2019t define your intelligence or personality. Instead, ask: What did I (or can I ) learn from that experience? How can I use it as a basis for growth? Carry that with you instead.\u201d<\/p>\n

Book Freak<\/a> is one of our five newsletters from Cool Tools Lab (our other\u00a0four are the Cool Tools Newsletter<\/a>, Recomendo<\/a>, Gareth\u2019s Tips, Tools, and Shop Tales<\/a>,\u00a0<\/em>and What’s in my bag?<\/a>).<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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